If you find yourself in a relationship that is deteriorating as rising arguments, escalating fights and bitter battles take over,  and  „Stop fighting with my partner“ is on your list of New Year’s resolutions,  I recommend a truely wonderful, wise and (yes!) fun book for couples:  Stop the fight! by Michelle Brody, Ph.D.

Brody describes 12 typical topics that most of my clients argue over again and again.

They might sound familiar to you:

  1. The Partner Improvement Fight
  2. The Prove Your Point Fight
  3. The Nagging-Tuning Out Fight
  4. The Escalating Fight
  5. The Household Responsibilities Fight
  6. The Birthday Fight
  7. The Bad Reputation Fight
  8. The You-Don’t-Care-About-Me Fight
  9. The Sex Fight
  10. The Money Fight
  11. The Parenting Differences Fight
  12. The Difficult Relatives Fight

What makes this book outstanding is Brody’s capacity to convey a deep understanding for the fighting couple’s complex dynamic that is both very professional, indeed profound and yet very easy to understand. She conveys very clear, down-to-earth advice and yet never oversimplifies the dynamics of disappointment, outrage and selfrightousness in relational conflicts. Plus: her illustrations are great. Hilarious, in fact.