Is this a good time for you and your partner to take stock? What has this year that is about to end -incomparable in so many ways – been like for your relationship? How can you honour what has been and welcome what is to come?

What might have been is an abstraction

Remaining a perpetual possibility

Only in a world of speculation.

What might have been and what has been

Point to an end, which is always present.

Footfalls echo in the memory

Down the passage which we did not take

Towards the door we never opened

Into the rose-garden. My words echo

Thus, in your mind.

The first lines from Burnt Norton, the first poem of TS Elliott’s Four Quartets

Find a quiet moment together to reflect.

  • What was good for the two of us in 2020 (even if so much was difficult)?
  • What made me feel grateful?
  • What made our love grow stronger?
  • What am I worried about at this stage of our journey?
  • What do I want us to have more of next year?
  • How do I want us to be next year?
  • What do I long for?
  • What are your dreams?
  • How can I support you?

Goodbye, 2020.

Welcome 2021!